This one’s going to be hard.
Not because it’s a difficult concept, but because most people, including myself, just refuses to do it.
Now before you get all defensive by saying things like, “I love talking”, “I’m a great communicator”, “I literally majored in communications”, just stop.
No…most likely you suck at communication when it comes to any type of relationship.
Let’s just see.
I’m going to ask a series of questions, and based on your answers you will know if you need to keep reading or not.
1.) Do you go to someone you have a problem with immediately, or go tell other people about it first?
2.) Have you ever let something someone did to you “slide” ?
3.) Is there something that bothers you about your close friends or significant other that you haven’t told them about?
I’m no physic, but the force is telling me most of y’all been playing yourself.
You know damn well you’ve been holding in a lot of stuff to save feelings, avoid confrontation, or preserve a relationship.
You aren’t fooling me. I know!
I know because I am the QUEEN of keeping my thoughts and feelings about things to myself, and I have gone through a nervous breakdown because of it!
Communication is the right hand to Relationships, without it you don’t have one.
I’m not talking about “What do you want to eat” communication.
I’m talking about “I notice you have a habit of lying, and that’s a problem for me” type of communication.
We’re so afraid of the effect of speaking up about an issue, that we silence ourselves.
We put ourselves in a box.
And we start to feel stuck and complacent.
Which is a terrible place to be.
You can’t silence yourself because of doubt in yourself and doubt in your relationships.
The only way to fix that and find security is to speak up!
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